Recently I treated a 13 yr old boy, who has the inner wisdom of Ghandi.
His mother was concerned about his apparent lack of focus at school, and how his self-esteem was so significantly affected by his poor marks.
He was bullied and, having a genuine sense of caring for those kids who would be blamed, and he believed that he needed to accept the responsibility of fault in the schoolyard as well as at home.
In sessions, we discussed how he saw his inner warrior. He realised that when he felt weak or powerless, his inner warrior had retreated to the ‘head in the clouds’ place, and as a result, he was left with a feeling of defeat and surrender.
Finding the Inner Warrior
When I asked him to describe his warrior, his response left me speechless.
This is indeed a moment in my practice when I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, how very much I love what I do!
This young sage went on to describe a Samurai warrior. He held a golden sword with a dragon etched into the blade.
He said that when he swung the sword that it moved in an empowering way, not a destructive way, and it was in the name of justice, courage and strength.
Ultimately he said it was in the name of Love.
When I suggested that this young man might call his warrior home, to be present, he lit up with the knowledge that that is what he needed to do.
As it is with so many kids I treat, I can see the pattern of the “head in the clouds” and lack of focus as being a result of not wanting to be ‘present’ here in reality.
A place to escape
Some kids have anxiety around performance, where others want for escape from the classroom due to lack of interest or boredom.
Through my work with these children, I can see that they often, literally, make a choice to leave their bodies and connect with their ‘head in the clouds’ place of retreat.
As a result, they may appear to be daydreaming or in a fog. This can cause a sense of not belonging for these kids and can lead to low self-esteem, a sense of guilt, shame and self-blame for their lack of achievement.
By making these kids aware of the importance of breathing and other tools I share with these kids I teach them that they can make a conscious choice to be fully present, as opposed to ‘checking out’ to the cloud zone.
They soon realise that in doing so their marks improve and they find a greater sense of well-being. Ultimately they gain a sense of feeling grounded and can see that being present is a very cool place to be!
One young man was very aware of his head in the clouds place and described a sense of flying out of his body. His parents had recently separated, causing a lot of stress at home, so it was a happier place for him to be.
When he realised he could bring this fun cloud place here in the present moment, he was more in control of his emotions and his anger reduced, and his focus and performance at school improved dramatically.
Where children, young people, and even adults are showing signs of ADD or ADHD, I always recommend looking at reasons why they might be making that choice, conscious or sub conscious to simply not be here in the present.
I believe that we are on a new pathway and each step we take, each career we move into, every relationship, every experience leads us even deeper into the understanding of who we truly are!
The steps are the building blocks of the ‘now’, and the ‘now’ is where we begin to blossom into our unique selves!
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This article is not intended to provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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